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How to Train Your Dragon (NSFW text)

20 Feb

Training is one of those words in BDSM that can take on a variety of meanings, and is not one Jalan and I often use with respect to people. However, we began practicing some things last week that do qualify. A couple of background points, first:

  • I’m a protocol perv. I love formality and ritual, as top, bottom, dom, sub, or Martian.
  • Part of my  philosophy of submission is, It’s not submission if I’d be doing it anyway. This is not to say that I never want to get to / have to / be told to do things I like, but rather that I need to feel “the tug of the leash” fairly regularly to maintain the conscious awareness of her control.
  • I like the idea of being under Jalan’s utter control for periods — responding immediately to her directions, having no initiative, but being completely submerged in the D/s — but it is not something I’d find functional for more than a fairly short time (hours, at most).

Jalan recently added to our rules a set of cues for different temporary shifts in our base dynamic, referred to as protocol rings. Red protocol, for example, sets up what I described in the third bullet as long as it is the protocol is operative.

All of that is preface to an actual training situation. One of the things Jalan has been working on for some time, and considers particularly important under the protocol rings, is the use of hand signals — silent cues to me to react in a certain way. So last week she had me lay out a pad and began training in me the first 8 or 9 signals, each of which cues me to a different posture (kneeling in different ways, prone, supine, sitting, etc.). We practiced and went back and forth to make sure I understood, then she led me through a bit of drill with the ones I’d started to learn.

Did I mention she’d pulled her hair back and was carrying a crop during this drill? Oh, me, oh, my.

Anyway, it was not a play scene, but it was preparatory — the signals will be incorporated into future play, as well as more general utility in tugging the leash (for example, cuing me where and when to sit at a restaurant would be in keeping with this). Training has begun.

 
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Posted by on February 20, 2012 in Daily Life

 

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